In the rhythm of modern work, we have become faster, more efficient, and more focused on outcomes. But in this drive for productivity, something essential has often been left behind: the why.
Humans need reasons. We are wired for context. Whether we are receiving feedback, responding to a rejection, or trying to make a cup of coffee, a simple explanation can mean the difference between understanding and frustration. Let us look at what happens when the why is missing in three everyday situations, and why offering simple reasoning makes a powerful difference.
Feedback without context feels like criticism.
You are in a one-on-one meeting with your manager. They say your presentation missed the mark and suggest changes for next time. But they do not explain what was missing or why the changes are needed. You leave the conversation feeling deflated and uncertain.
Now, picture the same conversation with just a little more clarity. Your manager says, “I would like you to focus more on business outcomes in your presentations, because our clients care most about measurable impact.” That brief sentence transforms vague critique into clear, constructive feedback.
Without the why, feedback can feel random or personal. With it, it becomes a tool for learning and growth.
Rejection without explanation breeds self-doubt.
You apply for a job that seems like a perfect match. After several rounds of interviews, you receive a brief email. The company thanks you for your interest, but tells you they are moving forward with another candidate. No reason is provided.
Left without context, your mind fills in the blanks. Was it something you said? Were you underqualified? Did they not like you?Even a short explanation, such as “We selected a candidate who has more direct experience in our industry,” can bring some closure and help you move forward with confidence.
Rejection is hard. It becomes harder when we are left to guess why it happened.
Rules without reasons create irritation.
You walk into the shared kitchen, looking forward to a cup of espresso. A handwritten sign is taped to the machine: “Do not use.” There is no explanation, no time frame, and no update. The result? Annoyance and unnecessary complaints.
Now imagine the sign says, “Machine out of service while we wait for a repair part. Expected to be back by Monday.” Suddenly, the message feels respectful, and the inconvenience is easier to accept.
In shared spaces and shared work, small moments of explanation create a sense of care and transparency.
The why builds trust
In all three examples, the missing why leads to confusion, frustration, and disconnection. But when we offer even a brief explanation, we help others understand, engage, and respond constructively.
Giving context does not require a long message. It often takes only one clear sentence to answer the unspoken question: Why are you telling me this? Why does this matter?
When we pause to offer the why, we are not just providing information. We are building understanding, deepening trust, and creating a more human workplace.
The Invitation
The next time you give feedback, deliver a decision, enforce a policy, or even tape a sign in the kitchen, add one more sentence. Give the why.
It takes a few extra seconds. But it may be the most powerful thing you say.